Despite living in a sex obsessed society, current media continues to communicate strict coding around what is okay to feel and not okay to feel. These codes often stem from a classist, Euro-centric, hetero-normative and patriarchal framework that provide guideposts for what is celebrated as civil, appropriate and normal. Unfortunately, these ‘norms’ are often in conflict with the rich range of feelings and diverse desires that queer people experience. The shaming of ‘non-normative’ desire is perhaps the most constructive instrument of oppression. Our most effective means for countering shame is an experience of belonging, which is achieved through telling our stories and fantasies and hearing stories like ours. This is the beauty of [SSEX BBOX].